When things happen in our lives that cause pain, difficulty, turmoil, disfunction, chaos, heartache, sadness, stress etc. we have choices. We have the power to choose how these “storms” affect us. Are the storms going to uproot you and literally destroy everything you have worked for and done up until that point? It could if you let it. However, you have control over how the situation is going to end up, how it will ultimately affect you. It may sound easier said than done, but you can turn a horrible thing into a good thing by learning and growing from the situation. I know pain is relative, we are all affected differently by things, but the way we come out of situations can all be the same. It’s a matter of reflecting and looking into ourselves and seeing what good can come out of a negative situation. What can we take from it to make us stronger and wiser? Is there something you can alter about yourself to ensure it does not happen again? Maybe it really hurts to see someone go and you might be afraid, but if you take a minute and let time work its magic you will see how much better off you are without them and how much stronger you are for letting them go. Sometimes it’s the storms in life that really put things into perspective. Sometimes storms make relationships flourish and strengthen them unexpectedly. Sometimes the storms wreak havoc on you and your entire life leaving you with roots weak and fragile. Disconnected and insecure. Hopeless and lonely. I have been there and it is a dark and scary place. Not knowing what was going to happen or if I was strong enough to weather the damage of my life’s biggest storm was horrifying. I personally know how close to impossible it is to see the good in the bad and turn negatives into positives. I was a grown woman with 2 little kids and a shattered life. I was a stay at home mom in the midst of divorce (which is not for the weak of heart. Divorce is frigging nuts.), no career but needed one, a beautiful home I had to put a “for sale” sign in front of, I had to give up my car, I had to move my happy little kids from our beautiful neighborhood and abandon our support system and happiness, and I was terrified. I basically lost everything I had that made up my once happy, beautiful life. So I thought. See, when my storm cleared I saw a rainbow. Not everything was over yet. I wasn’t on easy street by any means, and I’m still not, but I was hopeful. I realized the storm was a blessing and what it took from me were just things. It took away my ideas of happiness and all of the things I didn’t need but just things I wanted. What it didn’t take from me was me and that bitch of a storm actually gave me something. It gave me strength and pride. My roots deepened and self love strengthened. Badassery at it’s best if you ask me. This is not a sob story and this is not me patting myself on the back. I don’t really dig that shit. This is me sharing a really difficult life story with you and letting you know that if you get your mind in the right place nothing can touch you and your happiness, and the things that could potentially destroy you can actually strengthen you and center you. You can come out of a really dark place shining as bright as the sun if you make the effort to see the positive in the negative. My sister Lauren taught me this. I remember being annoyed when she would say it. “Well, what positives can you take from it?”. I wanted to punch her right in the frigging baby maker…. but she was right and she is wise. I thank her for helping me strengthen my roots and helping me see how beautiful my life truly is.
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