Hello. My name is Nicole and I love diamonds. I know everything a girl who isn’t a gemologist can know about diamonds. It is more than just knowledge, though. I think I am obsessed. I can spot a good one a mile away and I can smell a bad one. I think of diamonds kind of the same way I think of scars. They last forever. They say a lot about you by just wearing them. They have history. Sometimes you do naughty things to obtain diamonds. They prove you have lived and worked hard. I mean, I have a few scars on my body that didn’t cause as much pain as the diamonds I have acquired. Oh, yes. I have acquired a few beauties in my day. I remember so vividly the feeling I had every time some lucky gent asked me to marry them and I accepted. I mean, maybe if they would stop asking I wouldn’t have to keep getting married! The truth is, I knew exactly what was going to be placed on my finger each time. How? I designed my first one and I told the next one what I wanted. Like, exactly. I picked out my setting. I saw all of my diamonds before they were set. Why? Because I have really good taste and I wanted to make sure I loved it since it was going to be on my finger for a while, at least until we filed for divorce. My first ring was super flashy and HUGE (which I loved btw) and the second was smart (you’ll understand in a moment) and remarkable. You can read all about that stuff in my diamond post, which by the way, you should all read before going ring shopping. The point is, it’s engagement season and I personally believe, unless your man is Harry frigging Winston, you need to hold his hand through the process aka tell him exactly what you want. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being involved in this process. Why leave it up to chance? I mean, I know plenty of chicks who don’t love their rings, wish their stones were bigger, or loathe the cut of their center stones. Ew! Don’t do that to yourselves. First of all, his feelings cannot be that sensitive. If you don’t like what he picked out for you, tell him! What, you’ll hurt his feelings? What is he, a chick? That makes you a lesbian (which is of course awesome. It’s a joke. I hate that I can’t make that joke without defending myself. I am a friend of the gay community so don’t go busting these chops). Tell your lovers the truth about this stuff. You are going to work REAL hard in marriage, you may want to make sure that ring makes you smile. A lot. I am here to give you a little advice as well as share some designs I personally love. Let’s get started.
The Smart Girl: The classic 3 stone. Now, I do not advise anyone on a strict budget to opt for the three stone. Why? Because 3 significant stones cost more than one. If you have a hefty budget, push for a three stone. I suggest the smallest you go with this one is a 1.5 carat center with at least .75 carat stones on either side. Why is this the smart girls ring? haha. Listen up, students. 1. Let’s say this marriage lasts, you may decide to go for an upgrade on the 10th or 20th anniversary. Not only do you get a newer, bigger, more beautiful ring, you also got yourself a new pair of diamond stud earrings and a spectacular diamond pendant. 2. Let’s say this marriage doesn’t work out. You have got yourself a new pair of diamond stud earrings and a spectacular diamond pendant. Is it bad to think ahead? Um. no. Because guess what, I thought ahead and I now have myself the earrings and the necklace. Bloop!
The Classic Girl: Cartier and Tiffany’s boxes make you want to do big girl things. You tend to love a classic three stone (smarty pants) and nothing gets you saying “Yes” faster than a classic emerald cut diamond adorned with two gorgeous baguettes on either side, which by the way is the most beautiful classic ring on the planet. In my opinion.
The Flashy girl: I know your type. I am a former flashy girl. I recovered from this when I turned 30. I do still appreciate a gorgeous chachki ass ring when I see one, though. You love the sparkle and bling. The more diamonds the better. You probably love pave sets and halo settings and thick bands may also be your thing, as long as they are dripping with diamonds.
The Time Traveler: Estate jewelry and antique style settings are your cup of tea. You may love an old rose cut diamond or even a beautiful sapphire, ruby, or emerald center stone. Intricate, delicate platinum settings that sunk with the Titanic make you swoon.
The Budgeter: Don’t cry, dry your eye. Just because you are on a budget doesn’t mean you need to settle for a frigging diamond chip. No way, no how. My advice for you girls is to put your diamond in a setting which makes that sparkler appear bigger than it is. You may have to put a few extra Benjamins into the setting but it is def worth it. The girl on a budget can also opt for an untraditional style engagement ring. If you don’t have the cash to put into a decent stone when you say “I do” think about walking down that aisle with a gorgeous band of sorts. Sky is the limit and holy cannoli there are some gorgeous bands out there.
The Gold Digger: Girl! Go big or go home, right? I mean, you have been getting tea bagged by my dead grandpa for 6 months. You might as well make that sh!t worth it! If you have endless funds and basically can have any ring you want in the whole wide world, do. it. up. And do it right. Quality and quantity, girl. Get the best grade stone money can buy and you pick the size. My personal opinion, a round stone bigger than 3 carats is ugly. If you are going BIG look into the asher, emerald, cushion, and oval cut diamonds.
The Simple Girl: Simple is so nice. Sometimes I wish I were simple. Sigh. I believe the simple girl is the pretend virgin of the soon to be engaged. This is the sweet, nice girls department. In my opinion there is nothing more beautiful (in the simple realm of rings) than a 2.5 carat brilliant (round) cut solitaire. Solitaire rings are simplistic and classic but they certainly do not have to be boring. A setting can completely change the feel and look of a stone. You can do a 4 prong or 6 prong setting. Bezel or basket setting. Yellow gold or white gold. Thick band or thin band. You have a lot of choices for such a simple ring so making sure the lover knows exactly what you want is crucial. Saying “Hey, Chuck. I really love a beautiful solitaire engagement ring.” will not help your cause.
The Trendsetter: Let’s have some fun, bitches! I love the trendsetter. Rose gold settings, black diamonds, stones set unclassically, bold gold, ballerina settings, (and the list goes on) to boot! The trendsetter is super fly and has a cool style of her own. I think the trendsetter is a little older than the 25 year old bride. This is where the girl who knows who she is and what she wants meets her ring.
I am a combination of these. I believe I am a quarter gold digger, a quarter trendsetter and 50% classic. If I ever decide to accept a proposal again, I am not doing the classic engagement ring thing. Been there done that. Since I already have some beautiful diamonds in my collection, I think my ass will opt for a killer eternity band of sorts or even a black diamond because I am completely obsessed with them right now. I mean, don’t get me wrong, if some dude I love gets down on one knee and pops the question with a 10 carat emerald cut sparkler, I will for sure let him slip that thing on me. I am getting older and wiser, though, so I assure you the next time I agree to commit myself ’til death do us part it will be, without a doubt, the last time. Ugh. My attorney is going to kill me for this one. After my second divorce he said these wise words to me and we shook on it.
Anywho, here is my dream ring. Whether a lover buys it for me or I buy it for myself, I promise, it will some day be on my finger.
Make sure you keep your diamonds clean. Diamonds are meant to sparkle so follow my tips here. And I will leave all of you with this…
” You should always have a better man on your arm than ring on your finger.” ~ Nicole Antoinette Massarella Pililimis Pearl