I first heard the term “shit or get off the pot” from my dad, duh. As some of you may know by now, The Knife has some catchy but more importantly, educational sayings. This one was obviously in regards to me saying I was going to do something repeatedly, yet I could never recall what it was. It’s not the most ladylike of sayings, but it is extremely easy to understand and thought provoking at the same time. If you think about it, saying you’re going to do something over and over again and never doing it, is exactly like sitting on a toilet, saying to yourself, “ok, I’m going to poop now” with no turd in sight and doing nothing about it but sitting there. Well, maybe not exactly, but you know what I mean. I’m not going to lie, part of this post is completely self serving. However, this is also partly serves as my tips on how to give yourself the momentum to start what it is you keep saying you’re going to do over and over again. For years and I mean years, I have been saying that I am going to write a book and now I have added a screenplay to that list of “things I want to do”. I have told a few people about my two ideas and unless they are utterly full of crap, they love them both. I have worked on both projects at length but more needs to be executed and they need to be completed. So…this is me telling you, TSPeeps, that I am going to finish one project. I’m doing this so that you hold me accountable. If I had to say why I haven’t finished them yet, it’s because of time and fear. What if it’s not as good as it sounds in my head? When the hell am I going to actually do it?
We all have things we want or need to do and there could be a plethora of reasons why we don’t do them or complete them. Whatever the reason, you either have to just do it and stop saying it or don’t do it and stop saying it. Say it’s a quick three day vacation you keep saying you’re going to go on. Pick the dates, tell work and buy your tickets. No one ever regretted traveling. Are you like me and keep saying you’re going to put that laundry away tonight no matter what? Do not do one more thing until each sock and shirt is neatly put away. Side note: why does putting laundry away suck so bad? What is up with that? Whether you keep saying you’re going to learn a new language, break up with that gigantic loser, pay a stupid parking ticket or call someone you’ve been saying you’re going to call for three months – I have learned a couple tricks along the way that may help getting sh*t done – both the stuff we love to do and the stuff we hate to do.
Ask yourself: What do I keep saying I am going to do? And…what have I been wanting to do for years? Ok, now let’s do this.
- Tell someone you trust and have them hold you accountable. When you tell someone you are going to do something and ask them to hold you accountable, you have applied a little bit of the pressure on yourself. Because you know that if you tell a friend or sibling that you are going to do something, you kind of actually have to do it.
- Write it down. I love lists. Can you tell? I have tons of lists in my Reminder app on my iPhone as well as handwritten lists because there is something just so satisfying about crossing off a task I’ve accomplished. For more long term lists and goals, I have my Passion Planner. This planner is basically a gift from the gods. We’re only in March, so it’s not too late to join the obsession! Write your stuff down. Feel satisfied and proud of yourself when you do what you set out to do.
- Meditate about it. Hear me out! Meditation has so many amazing benefits. Maybe you’re a little high strung and you need to chill out before making any next moves. Perhaps you’re not sure if what you want to do and what you should do go hand in hand. Maybe you’re not feeling creative enough to start that painting you’ve been wanting to begin. Meditation can and most likely will help in all of these areas. Sometimes we need a clear head and heart to help take on the next steps. Try it.
- Write a list of pros and cons. If you’re unsure if you should invest the time, emotions and energy in doing something, write a list of how you would and would not benefit from doing so. You may find that it’s actually not worth your while to move forward with something you’ve been sitting on. Or maybe you’ll find it would be a huge game changer for you if you did do it.
- Look at the big picture. Consider all aspects to what it is you’re always saying you are going to do. How will it affect future projects? Will you need to ask others for help? What will you need to do in order to accomplish this task or goal? How will it affect your daily life and current situation? Take some time to ponder.
- Quit overthinking and just freaking do it. This is my version of tough love. Either do it or don’t. That’s it. Sometimes you just have to say “f$*% it” and get things done.
- Stop being scared of failure or judgement. This is the first half of my issue. I’m nervous. What if I finish my project and nothing happens and it’s a huge flop. F that. I’m done thinking that way. I can’t see what exactly that mindset will ever offer me, so I’m moving forward. Of course I think the fear will always linger mildly, but I’m going to use that as a driving force. What are your fears? Address them and conquer them. Little tip: I once read a quote that read: “Don’t let people make you feel nervous, they’re just people.” I frigging love this quote because it’s so true. Why feel inferior or intimidated? You’re awesome, smart and can do anything you set your mind and body to do.
- Make the time and commit to it. This is the other half of my problem. Time. I have decided that 20-30 minutes a day (minimum) needs to be committed to my project in order for it to come into fruition. That will probably mean I will need my Mac or iPad with me wherever I am just in case I’m on the go. Done. If you’re super busy as well, look at your planner or calendar and see how and when you can dedicate time to your project. Prioritize. You will be so frigging happy and proud of yourself. I’ll be proud of you too!
- Consider the future. How will you feel one week, seven months or five years from now if you don’t do what you keep saying you’re going to do? What about if you do do it?
I hope some of these tips will help you move forward in accomplishing some of your short and long term goals. What tools and tricks do you use to help you get the boost you need? Besides copious amounts of caffeine of course.
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