Someone made a comment to me this past weekend and it got me thinking. I was chatting with a cute little stranger at a bar in the city and she said to me “There are not girls like you out there. You are pretty AND nice.” I giggled and thanked her. Not the first time I have heard something like this. “I totally thought you were a huge bitch until I talked to you.” I have been hearing this shit my whole life. Now, I don’t know if it’s because I look like what a bitch looks like or if it is because I am, from what I can see, pretty (which btw is completely acceptable for a woman to admit she is in fact pretty or smart or funny or all of the above etc). Let’s say, hypothetically, it’s the former. They judge me because I am pretty. I choose this to be the reason because I have talked to friends and such about it and we all came up with that conclusion. Ok so um, question. Are most pretty chicks bitches? Why would someone think I am a bitch just by simply looking at me? Then I think more about it and here is what it comes down to. Insecurities. Not the insecurities of the people looking at me thinking I must be a bitch, but because a lot of pretty bitches opt to be straight up nasty to other people for no good reason other than their own…. Yep, you guessed it. Insecurities. For some reason there are a lot of beautiful chicks out there who exude total bitchiness and are mean to other broads because of something on the inside that just ain’t feeling right. Now, go ahead and say this to them. They will laugh in your face and probably incessantly tell you how beautiful they think they are and how YOU are the one who is insecure and jealous. Here’s the thing. When I say a lot of pretty girls are bitches because they are insecure, I am not necessarily diagnosing them with being insecure about their looks. It is possible but there are so many other reasons why women could be insecure. It ain’t just in the face, girls. It could be their intelligence, upbringing, family, finances, relationship issues, physical shit, anxieties, you name it. My point is, the pretty girls who treat other people, mostly other women poorly, are doing it because something inside of them is off. Rotten ass insides. It has nothing to do with being pretty. It is a combination of things. See, it doesn’t matter how beautiful you are. We all got insecurities, ladies. But when beauty and rotten insides collide? That my friends is when pretty bitches give the rest of the girls the idea that pretty=bitch. If they only knew there is no better way to scream “I AM REALLY INSECURE AND HAVE ROTTEN INSIDES TO BOOT” than to treat others badly in order to make themselves feel better. It is rather sad. I believe inner beauty is by far the most essential beauty in life. Why? Because it is a Goddamn choice! We don’t choose to be physically “pretty” or “ugly”. I am talking about when we are butt ass naked with not a stitch of makeup on our faces. We can’t choose what we look like in our natural forms. But we DO choose what we look like on the inside coming out. We choose whether or not we want to be “pretty” or “ugly” on the inside, which BY FAR outweighs physical beauty. By a million frigging miles. If physical beauty and inner beauty got into a fight, inner beauty would knock the fuck out of physical beauty in an instant. TKO, ladies. If only eating a little makeup could benefit the insides of the ugly pretty girls. I know one thing for sure. I am going to continue wearing my makeup and getting all pretty and shit all while treating people I meet along the way with kindness and smiles. I choose to deal with my personal insecurities the normal way. By eating way too much friggin chocolate and once in awhile turning into Ginny, my alter-ego who enjoys gin and getting heels to Jesus 😉
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