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Our Mom Is All Good In The Hood

February 13, 2017 By Michelle 11 Comments

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Since my mom moved to her new digs around the corner from me, a lot of incredible things have been happening. These days my mom is pretty much non-verbal, except for the occasional one or two-word response, so it is pretty hard to tell what she gets or comprehends. I was preparing for a rocky transition when she moved because that was what her doctor told me to expect. It was explained to me that anytime you take a person with my mom’s condition away from their regular everyday surroundings and place them in a new environment, it causes stress and anxiety and we were all buckling up for a challenging transition. I was anticipating lots of pacing and all around unrest. We knew the fact that her team of caregivers, (who you will be meeting very soon) were coming from the old house was a positive aspect of this transition, however, there were a lot of unknowns and to be honest, I was scared. My stomach was in knots as I gathered her and her caregiver and transported them to the house for what would end up being her first official night in her new home.

Guess what? My mom is FANFUCKINGTASTIC! I think it is fair to say the transition was seamless. I’m not sure there was even a transition at all. Her actions and responses to certain things are how we know she is awesome. For starters, my mom hasn’t slept in her bed for nearly two years. We weren’t ever really sure why. I had decided long ago she was afraid to be alone and the sound of the t.v. in the family room gave her mind some peace, but it always bothered me. I was worried about her back and the fact that she wasn’t getting good, solid sleep. I can check that worry off of my worry list because from the moment she moved in, she has slept in her bed like a baby, every single night. Thank you, Jesus! I can hardly believe it myself, but her new sleep pattern is only one aspect of how this move has already improved her quality of life.

Her little house has been called a “beacon of hope and light” from the moment it became hers. I was drawn to it as soon as I noticed the For Sale sign. Her house has these oversized picture windows that have already proven to be more than just panes of glass.  These windows have been a gift to my mom and all of us. My mom’s previous home was dark and gloomy and too many sad things had happened there. Her new home is quite literally the opposite. It is all white, inside and out and that was no accident. There is light shining through every corner of that home and those picture windows allow my mom to be engaged with the world outside her four walls. These days our mom greets us at the door. Swoon!

But that is not all. You know, when a loved one gets taken down with dementia almost instantly your roles are reversed. Your loved one becomes the child and you become the parent or the caregiver. I have been bathing and dressing my mom for the last year and there is no other way around it, it’s fucking hard. I had pretty much accepted this as my role and was prepared to never see my mom show signs of being a mom or a grandma ever again. The reality of that notion is tough. It hurts. However, since she has moved, she is different. It’s like the house has breathed a little life back into her. It has rejuvenated her in a lot of ways. She has been witnessed doing things she hasn’t done in forever. Andrea walked into her kitchen to find her putting the food on the counter back into the refrigerator. My mom was always a neat freak. Apparently, she couldn’t wait for her clothes to be put back into her closet so she went ahead and did it herself. But the moment that nearly brought me to my knees happened yesterday when I was helping my littlest niece get ready to leave. I was kneeling in front of Tori helping to zip her coat, and my mom appeared. She handed me Tori’s gym shoes after she opened them so I could help her put them on. I said, “Wow, thanks, mom.” I was quite literally stunned. In that fleeting moment, my mom and I were connected as two mothers. She saw me juggling to gather the gang and she recognized I could use a hand. That teeny tiny moment is one that I will not forget for a very long time. My mom is okay and damnit, she is still in there!

My mom is finally home and among the living. The constant life that walks through her door since she has moved back to a town she has always known and loved has reinvigorated her and all of us. Her smile is something she gifts us with more than she ever has before and for those of you that have been following this story and perhaps have been personally touched by this terrible disease, this is a message of hope. My entire family rallied around our mom, which is a testament to the kind of mother and person she is. Since then, our mom has responded to this huge change in ways I never thought possible and although she is different, she will always be a warrior to me. Never give up and never ever stop fighting for the ones you love. It is worth it and I know this because my mom feels our fierce dedication to live for her and it has in many ways given her reason to live too.

 

Filed Under: Our Dementia Journey, Real Talk Tagged With: dementia, FTD, Our Moms Journey with FTD

About Michelle

I am a hygge enthusiast and lifestyle blogger from Chicago. I am a daughter, wife, mom to spirited twins and sister to many. My favorite hobbies include cooking with a cast iron skillet, singing in a dad-band and cradling my mini Dachshund, Kevin, like a newborn baby.

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Comments

  1. Amy Nelson says

    February 13, 2017 at 2:34 pm

    This is beautiful! I am so happy for your Mom. Love concurs all.

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  2. Linda Bishop says

    February 13, 2017 at 3:16 pm

    Girl, you better send Kleenex before your posts! Helping Tori with her shoes gutted me! So happy for all of you!!! ❤

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  3. Lisa Soda says

    February 13, 2017 at 4:38 pm

    Sounds like your mom was meant to live in that house! I’m so glad The transition went well, this was great to hear!❤❤❤

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  4. Judy says

    February 13, 2017 at 5:00 pm

    Can’t say enough how awesome you women are. So glad that all is going better than you expected. Blessings and love to alll.

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  5. Maryclare Trela says

    February 13, 2017 at 5:21 pm

    There are no words to describe how beautiful this is and how happy and touched I am reading this. You girls are her angels. Literally. You’ve all got wings! I love you all for this and I love her and can’t wait to see her.

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  6. Tracy says

    February 13, 2017 at 8:20 pm

    She looks very happy- saw her walking today on the block & I waved and she smiled. It was awesome

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  7. Anna says

    February 14, 2017 at 5:38 am

    ❤️❤️❤️

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  8. Carol says

    February 14, 2017 at 8:42 am

    ❤️❤️❤️Beautiful

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  9. Jean says

    February 14, 2017 at 8:55 am

    I am so happy that you got her that house, a lot of work, but it payed off. Great story.

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  10. Maura says

    February 16, 2017 at 2:55 pm

    What a gift you have given your mom. And what a gift she has given you right back. That’s amazing!!!!

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  11. Valerie says

    March 21, 2019 at 7:26 pm

    Those are blessing , even the smallest of task that we take for granted on as a day to day routine . How wonderful !!! Give June my love !!

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