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The Problem With Youth Sports These Days

July 6, 2017 By Michelle 8 Comments

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When I was young, youth sports were an entirely different animal from what they are now. It seems like kids don’t get to enjoy the well-rounded, sports-filled childhood I knew as a youngster.  The days of playing a-little-of-this and a-little-of-that or just “playing” are long gone. Their schedules are jammed with planned activities and, by the age of nine, most are funneled into some sort of travel team or “competitive” sport where the level of commitment is high for both the kids and parents, along with the costs.  The term “competitive” is a farce because everyone makes the team. But what I don’t understand is, what is the rush?

Why is everyone so anxious to get their young kids locked into a sport so quickly?  My peers are obsessed with rigorous activity schedules and expensive sports programs for their kids.  I’m just not seeing the benefits.  Whatever happened to a little free time and having our kids become well-rounded athletes by trying different sports?

Are we developing champions in a world where everyone plays? Are all of those dollars spent on “competitive” sports guaranteeing college scholarships? Are these kids even going to get a four-year high school sports experience? No. Not even a chance for most. Many of these kids won’t even make it on the school team beyond their freshman year. Yet, by that time, their parents will have already likely dropped thousands of dollars to an organization despite the lack of player and team development. The competitive part of the sports experience was taken out of the equation the moment everyone started making the team. That, by definition, renders these groups as non-competitive athletics. In fact, they are better defined as recreational sports pretending to be competitive sports, especially with their cost. That bothers me. So, why not prolong the recreational sporting experience a bit longer, perhaps let our little ones try more and different sports and, I know this sounds crazy, just let them play as kids should.

Currently, the competitive youth soccer world is a pay-to-play environment;  if you pay, your kid can play and the cost is high. Back in the day, when soccer wasn’t a money-making business model, a tryout meant you had to physically show up and show your skills.  Then, the coaches assessed and, in a week or so, you got a call to either invite you to the team or to tell you to keep practicing and come out next year. These days, in the so-called “competitive” youth soccer world, you don’t even have to show up to make the team. Send your money in and they will let you know what A, B, C, D, E or F team you are on.  From there, teams are formed with every paying party and kids are constantly being moved up, down and all around. There is no consistency. No continuity. No team unity. How can there be?

And what about the commitment? Once you sign on the dotted line, you are “club team” property. They suck up your time with practices and travel and, if you aren’t able to go to Sunday’s game, no biggie, little Suzy (who is a year younger and looks like a newborn deer stumbling around on the field) will play up.  What does that teach a child and an athlete about individual responsibility and the commitment they have to their team? What team? Where is the glory in that? I am not sure there is any.

Back when sports were actually competitive when you truly earned a spot and became part of a team, it was the only thing in the world that mattered.  The practice was required and you weren’t there because you had to be, you were there because you wanted to be better. Not showing up didn’t even occur to you because, when you made it to that level, you lived it. You breathed it. It was your passion. You had the heart. You had grit. You would do anything to win. And, when you did, it was the greatest feeling in the world. When you didn’t, you went over it in your head a thousand times. You asked yourself, “How can I be better?” My generation of athletes held each other accountable. We relied on each other. We trusted one another. We were a single unit made up of 11 players that thought like 1.

Competitive sports have a way of imitating life. In mine, it was soccer that really shaped me. I had to work for every achievement–the same goes for life as an adult. When I fucked up on the field, it hurt. But I learned from it and learned to never give up. When shit gets real as a grownup, I call upon the life skills I honed on the field to get me through my stuff. That is the point of youth sports and right now it is failing our kids. Times have changed and, while everyone complains about the entitled generation of kids these days, it seems to me that we are at fault. We are programming young people to get whatever they want, whenever they want. When the harsh realities of life come and slap them in the face, they won’t be ready. They won’t be able to handle them. We need to be harder on our kids and let them experience both failure and great achievement so that they grow into young people who will contribute to society. I am just not sure this can be accomplished in a world where everyone makes the team…

 

Filed Under: Michelle, Real Talk Tagged With: Everyone Plays, Youth Soccer, Youth Sports

About Michelle

I am a hygge enthusiast and lifestyle blogger from Chicago. I am a daughter, wife, mom to spirited twins and sister to many. My favorite hobbies include cooking with a cast iron skillet, singing in a dad-band and cradling my mini Dachshund, Kevin, like a newborn baby.

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Comments

  1. Anna says

    July 6, 2017 at 11:12 am

    Damn, girl. I remember this fire on the field… frankly, I’m surprised we were able to become as good of friends as we are to this day, given how much you used to yell at me during practice and games. Not as my coach, mind you – as a frustrated teammate. HA! Ah, well – I was better off on the track… 😉

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    • Michelle says

      July 6, 2017 at 11:51 am

      I have one thing to say in response to this. “When you got the goods, you got the goods.” BOOM!

      Reply
  2. Erin says

    July 6, 2017 at 12:47 pm

    Ummmmm…….. you are more than welcome to share any fence story you have……so much funnier from your perspective anyway…. 😂 and Merv and Montoya, omg. And yes, things have totally changed! I always thought Id be a soccer mom, and instead I’m a stage mom and a basketball/golf mom. The social maneuvering that also goes on. 🤢. “I don’t want my kid moved up unless so and so is” “I only want Johnny with this coach or this friend on his team” sort of thing. It’s crazy!

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    • Michelle says

      July 6, 2017 at 1:19 pm

      It’s all pretty disconcerting. I watched a U13 girls travel game recently and I was blown away by the lack of skill, intensity and actual soccer being played. Girls were ducking from balls and going half ass to others. At that rate, stick with the rec league and save your parents money.

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  3. Anthony Ciancio says

    July 10, 2017 at 12:49 pm

    Great article! And agreed on all fronts. Think of some coaches who were perceived as difficult or crazy or mean – yeah at times things would seem unreasonable or unfair but that’s life. They would still get a lot out of those players who wanted to succeed. You will run into people like that later, so best to be prepared. Some coach who is just a people pleaser isn’t doing any parents or their kids any favors.

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  4. Carol says

    October 29, 2018 at 3:03 pm

    Amen Sister! I couldn’t say it any better!
    You get it!

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    • Michelle says

      November 1, 2018 at 3:45 pm

      Thanks. It’s pretty crazy these days.

      Reply
  5. Carol says

    January 31, 2019 at 9:04 am

    Amen!

    Reply

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