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Hi Mom, I Miss You

July 17, 2019 By Michelle 13 Comments

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@paxsonwoelber

 

Hi Mom,

Hey there, pretty lady.  I haven’t heard from you since you left, and I worry, so I thought I would check in. How are the new digs? Zena said she talked to you in a dream and you said you really like the new place, so that makes me happy. How are things? How’s the coffee up there? I bet it’s heavenly. (See what I did there?) Have you seen Grandma? I hope so. I know how much you missed her. What about Grandpa? Is he owning his baldness or still sporting the toupee? God, I miss you. Are you okay?

Sorry, I’m peppering you with questions. Obviously, I have tons of them but also kind of wanted to check in and tell you about me for a bit because, to be honest, I’m struggling.  Since you “you know”, everyone has been so sweet. People are always calling and texting.

I have even received letters. Actual handwritten cards in the mail. So hygge, like you.

It feels good to feel so loved. It definitely helps, but then the moment passes and I remember that you aren’t here and it hurts, a lot. Like, my heart actually hurts.  Is that normal? Is it heartache or is it gas? God, I miss you telling me everything from fractured ankles to headaches are just gas.

You’ll be happy to know I am keeping family tradition alive. I have successfully raised the next generation of amazing worriers and hypochondriacs. I mean, Mia might even be worse off than me. She actually worries about worrying. I can usually get her to laugh when I point that fact out, but you know how girls are; it all depends on their mood. She’s a sweetheart, asks me to tell stories about you often. She misses you. We all do.

William doesn’t talk about you much. He’s more of a feeler, less of a talker. Unless, of course, he is saying the word “penis” on repeat. When will that stop? Please say soon. Will tends to be more on the nervous side about things. He says our dog, Kevin, is his therapy dog. Well, Kevin as well as his human buddy, Nick. Apparently, both allow Will to pet their heads when he is feeling anxious. Baseball is definitely Will’s favorite past time. He absolutely loves it… almost as much as he loves it when Mia’s friends come over. Lord, help me.

Remember when I was going through all the infertility stuff and I would cry and tell you my womb was going to be vacant forever? Then, finally, after three years, we hit the pregnancy jackpot and, for every pregnant milestone until I delivered the twins, you would remind me of how I thought I was sterile. You were right though; I was not barren. I’ve got two ten-year-olds to prove it.

The kids are awesome, mom. They really are. I am trying so hard to do a good job but really wish you were around because I could use your advice on just about everything.

I have to be honest, I can’t help but feel a little like I pulled the short straw when it came to you “peacing out” when you did. But, I get it. You had to go.

It’s just that I see all my friends’ moms doting and obsessing over their grandkids and I think about the time I had with Grandma; just sort of wish my kids could have that too. I know you had big plans too but those are the breaks, I guess.

I suppose this whole dying thing is supposed to be some giant life lesson, right? Well, in your words, “I’ve got a newsflash for ya”, lessons are being learned all over town. But what has been the biggest “ah ha” moment for me has actually been about me. I had no idea I was this strong–not a clue. From start to finish, I had to dig deep and power through so that I could help you power through and, wouldn’t you know it, I survived! Holy crap, I think I can handle anything at this point. But, you know what else I discovered through this entire process?

Life really is short and I want to make my time count while I am here. You were so right. It really is about the moments!

Your life and departure has given me insight and clarity on how I want to live the rest of mine. Change is definitely on the horizon for your first born. I love you so much it hurts.

Michelle

P.S. Send me a sign woman!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Filed Under: Our Dementia Journey, Real Talk Tagged With: Frontal Temporal Dementia, FTD, grief

About Michelle

I am a hygge enthusiast and lifestyle blogger from Chicago. I am a daughter, wife, mom to spirited twins and sister to many. My favorite hobbies include cooking with a cast iron skillet, singing in a dad-band and cradling my mini Dachshund, Kevin, like a newborn baby.

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Comments

  1. Mary says

    July 18, 2019 at 9:41 am

    That was beautiful, I’m so sorry Michelle. You took such great care of your Mom, you both were truly blessed to have each other. Going through this journey with my Mom made me realize how strong I am as well, I had no idea. I bet the coffee is delicious and every cup is brewed fresh!

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    • Michelle says

      July 18, 2019 at 11:55 am

      Thank you for your kind words, Mary. It is amazing what kind of strength we have isn’t it? You know it is fresh brewed! And not out of a Keurig either!

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  2. Carol says

    July 18, 2019 at 9:51 am

    ♥️

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    • Michelle says

      July 18, 2019 at 11:54 am

      I can’t even begin to imagine what it must feel like wondering if your child is ok in heaven. I love you.

      Reply
  3. Sbalchiero says

    July 18, 2019 at 10:15 am

    Beautiful and poignant words my friend. I’m right there with you in this journey. It’s only been 5 days since my Mom passed, and I know the road to self-healing will be long, bumpy, and exhausting. Shit, it already has been. Hang in there, Mitch. Love ya…

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    • Michelle says

      July 18, 2019 at 11:53 am

      Thanks friend. I have been thinking about you lots. We can journey through together. Love ya right back.

      Reply
  4. Maryclare says

    July 18, 2019 at 2:06 pm

    Oh Michelle! You are a beautiful soul! Your mom is so so proud of you! And she was lucky to have you and strength. Grief is so hard it hurts. Not sure it ever ends, it just gets more manageable. Your words and worries are so piercing. Please know that I think about June (and all of you) lots. She left quite a legacy. I love you all so so so much!

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    • Michelle says

      July 23, 2019 at 9:31 am

      Thank you Maryclare.

      Reply
  5. Carla Passarella says

    August 14, 2019 at 1:34 pm

    Such a beautiful and perfect way to talk/write about how your feeling. Since I have been following you two and reading your blogs I feel somewhat better since I lost my Mother. You both are inspiring to me and I check back with your post offered. See my Family lives in Albuquerque New Mexico. I am here in Chicago when my two sisters are back home. So I do feel lonely with out them but we have an outstanding text to be able to help each other out when feeling down. It’s new to us. Our Mom past away in March so it feels still fresh. Thanks for being a big help in my journey with out my Mom. Thanks again Carla

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  6. Jen Ilich- Collins says

    September 1, 2019 at 8:49 pm

    I love this…..grieving is such a process; losing my Dad still takes my breath away. I am so glad I reconnected with you today. I will always be such a fan of yours and hope happiness continues to find you in all your endeavors and you get your “sign.” There is a book called “the invisible string” check it out ❤️Hugs

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    • Michelle says

      September 3, 2019 at 9:30 am

      Seeing you brought back a flood of great memories and am happy to have crossed paths once again. Going to definitely be checking out “the invisible string.”

      Reply
  7. Carol King says

    April 15, 2020 at 10:28 am

    My Dear Michelle
    Your mom is with you always.
    I lost mine when she was 40.
    I feel your pain.
    I too the oldest of 5. 4 brothers.
    I became Their mom.
    Your words are beautiful and so heartfelt.
    Don’t worry about things you can’t control.its negative energy and gets you nowhere.
    Find comfort in the beautiful memories and let people know the most wonderful thing is when they mention her name or share a memory with you.
    They’re a few things I remember about June. She really did have a good heart. Her smile, infectious and you all inherited it! Her creative talent with flowers. I love sitting in your kitchen with her by the fire watching her cook up a storm! So cozy, so hygge.
    The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree♥️
    Sending lots of love, hugs, and happy thoughts!

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  8. Linda Cada says

    July 23, 2020 at 8:25 pm

    Thanks for reposting this letter. You know I cried but I know how blessed I was to have my Mom for as long as I did.

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